08.26.08
A letter from the founder of BOLD, Karen Brody
Dear BOLD organizers, cast, crew and all the BOLD angels who have been
a part of being BOLD in 2008,
As Labor Day approaches I am getting yet again that BOLD feeling in my
hands, feet and stomach. It’s not always comfortable – actually some
days I feel like I want it to go away, that groundless feeling of
going into the unknown – and then suddenly I realize why I’m doing
this BOLD work, why I’m feeding my kids too much pizza this summer,
not listening to my husband when he’s talking to me because I’m in
“BOLD mode. It’s because of a dream. (And how appropriate to dream
this week, the 45th anniversary of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s “I Have
a Dream Speech”).
After I gave birth to my son in 1999 I couldn’t believe the number of
mothers – low risk like me and educated – who had bad birth
experiences. Not just bad – I’m talking traumatic. It made no sense to
me. The character Lisa in the play was a woman I met through a
playgroup friend who had just moved to Little Rock with her husband
and young son back in 2001. Lisa was quiet and reserved around the
playgroup moms at first, her eyes tired and dark. Every day I’d see
her and we’d talk about mom things and I discovered how funny and
confident she was, but deep down I could see her sadness and knew she
had a story to tell. We became friends for two years and only as she
was leaving Little Rock with her family one evening at her farewell
party she had heard I was interviewing mothers about their birth
stories and she cornered me in a room and said, “I need to talk with
you.” She didn’t want to do it in person so several months later I
called her on the phone and she told me her birth story…she wept, I
wept; she said she was still so angry and didn’t know if she’d have
another baby and I understood. I understood – after I had interviewed
118 new mothers – that she is not alone. And that in order for
maternity care to change we had to start telling the birth stories of
mothers to tell the truth about childbirth.
My dream was that all people would know this truth and get so fired
up – not angry but inspired – to make childbirth center around the
woman, not the insurance companies or drug companies or hospitals.
Birth today is a justice issue, human rights issue, women’s rights
issue…whatever you want to call it. And you are all a part of it. A
part of my dream – now our dream. And I thank you. I thank you for
being BOLD, for doing something that puts you, your kids and your
families over the edge for a few months this year because you know
deep down that it’s right. It’s a dream we must make happen.
On the eve of over 100 BOLD performances next month I encourage all of
you to take a deep breath, remember the dream and then go for it – for
mothers, babies and future generations.
The time is now to be BOLD.
Warmly,
Karen